Newsflash Mindy: Most People Look out for Themselves
This title is something that I am noticing a lot lately. We all need to look out for ourselves of course. Nevertheless, we can still consider other people and not think solely of ourselves in most situations.
In the spirit of becoming more assertive, I've been reflecting on how often I go out of my way for other people and how often they go out of their way for me.
Some of the results (more than I expected) are saddening. I see that I go to other people, rather than make them come to me. I generally keep to the plans I've made with other people, sometimes to my own detriment, as well. Most people, however, seem to expect me to go to them and cancel whenever something is the least bit inconvenient. It's frustrating. The exception to this observation is my grandmother and aunt. They often think about me and take my needs into consideration. I hope that I reciprocate that; I do try. ) Also, I have about 3 friends who are pretty solid. Perhaps that's as good as it gets and I should count myself lucky.
So what do I do with this information? What are the choices?
A) Find new people to befriend
B) Accept that it's the way most people are
C) Look our for myself more
D) Cry and/or scream and/or punch people
E) Try to call people out and confront them about it
E) Prioritise the few reliable people
F) Cut out all the people who I feel I have a one-sided friendship with it
G) Try to set a good example and hope it rubs off
H) Try to have compassion for people and assume they have good reasons for the things they do
Okay, that was helpful actually. I will prioritise the reliable people and be considerate of them and their needs.
I will look out for myself more in friendships that I feel are one sided. I will possibly end a couple of friendships that I feel are waaaay too one sided. I will also look for a few more solids. I'll also try to call people out more rather than keep these feelings of frustration inside.
Yay blogging and solutions!
In the spirit of becoming more assertive, I've been reflecting on how often I go out of my way for other people and how often they go out of their way for me.
Some of the results (more than I expected) are saddening. I see that I go to other people, rather than make them come to me. I generally keep to the plans I've made with other people, sometimes to my own detriment, as well. Most people, however, seem to expect me to go to them and cancel whenever something is the least bit inconvenient. It's frustrating. The exception to this observation is my grandmother and aunt. They often think about me and take my needs into consideration. I hope that I reciprocate that; I do try. ) Also, I have about 3 friends who are pretty solid. Perhaps that's as good as it gets and I should count myself lucky.
So what do I do with this information? What are the choices?
A) Find new people to befriend
B) Accept that it's the way most people are
C) Look our for myself more
D) Cry and/or scream and/or punch people
E) Try to call people out and confront them about it
E) Prioritise the few reliable people
F) Cut out all the people who I feel I have a one-sided friendship with it
G) Try to set a good example and hope it rubs off
H) Try to have compassion for people and assume they have good reasons for the things they do
Okay, that was helpful actually. I will prioritise the reliable people and be considerate of them and their needs.
I will look out for myself more in friendships that I feel are one sided. I will possibly end a couple of friendships that I feel are waaaay too one sided. I will also look for a few more solids. I'll also try to call people out more rather than keep these feelings of frustration inside.
Yay blogging and solutions!
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