I'm not sure if I am disappointed in or proud of myself...
I've always considered myself a feminist. I believe that men and women should receive equal rights and respect.
I spent a lot of time growing up with guys and I refused to do anything that was traditionally female, such as be a wife, have kids, cook, etc. etc. Now my values have all turned around and I'm feeling a little unsure about where I stand. I think one of my problems was believing that non-traditional women roles were somehow more important than the traditional ones. I no longer believe that. ?They are not. I believe that having and raising children is possibly the best/more wonderful thing you could do. I want to have children. I quite possibly even want to get married (although not ever in a church). (Have a been brain-washed? have my natural female/maternal hormones kicked in? Am i being courageous or cowardly in changing my view?)
I've become social worker and a teacher... female-dominated, lower paying jobs and I'm not sure about that either. I mean I think that I followed my heart, I care about ppl and I love kids. I was smart enough to do anything that I wanted to do though... if I wanted it bad enough. At least I think so. So... did I make the most of myself? Did i try hard and push myself? Should I have done more/better? I'm not sure. I always wanted to be a doctor, most likely because of the prestige associated with it... and i didn't do that. The truth is though... I freaking hate hospitals! So it is probably a good thing that I got off of that path. Yet, somehow I wonder if I just followed my specific career path because it was easy and it is what a lot of women do. God, I hope not. I want the things I do to be defined by who I am, not by my gender. I mean I am a woman, that is of course part of me, but I am also an individual. A capable, smart individual... and I am worried that I haven't done anything difficult enough or enough for the feminin cause...
Women in Quebec were only given the right to vote provincially in like 1940 and were only allowed to go into bars in like 1979... Until 1964 a woman could only get out of a marriage if her husband brought his concubine(mistress) into the home... he could do anything else including beating the shit out of her and that was fine by law... It all makes me want to puke! No one group of people have the right to control another group. There aren't even words for how upsetting it is to me that men thought it was their place to control and keep women in their place. Who started that shit? It's all done out of some cowardly fear... well fuck that! Yeah we can have the babies and men can hunt the animals... both are deserving of honour and respect. Neither should be subserviant to the other... ever. Down with patriarchy.. down with patriarchal religions and let's not forget that we refer to the Earth as our mother and the Sun as our father.
Anyways... there is still a long way to go in terms of equality... I hope that I am fighting and not selling out.
I've always considered myself a feminist. I believe that men and women should receive equal rights and respect.
I spent a lot of time growing up with guys and I refused to do anything that was traditionally female, such as be a wife, have kids, cook, etc. etc. Now my values have all turned around and I'm feeling a little unsure about where I stand. I think one of my problems was believing that non-traditional women roles were somehow more important than the traditional ones. I no longer believe that. ?They are not. I believe that having and raising children is possibly the best/more wonderful thing you could do. I want to have children. I quite possibly even want to get married (although not ever in a church). (Have a been brain-washed? have my natural female/maternal hormones kicked in? Am i being courageous or cowardly in changing my view?)
I've become social worker and a teacher... female-dominated, lower paying jobs and I'm not sure about that either. I mean I think that I followed my heart, I care about ppl and I love kids. I was smart enough to do anything that I wanted to do though... if I wanted it bad enough. At least I think so. So... did I make the most of myself? Did i try hard and push myself? Should I have done more/better? I'm not sure. I always wanted to be a doctor, most likely because of the prestige associated with it... and i didn't do that. The truth is though... I freaking hate hospitals! So it is probably a good thing that I got off of that path. Yet, somehow I wonder if I just followed my specific career path because it was easy and it is what a lot of women do. God, I hope not. I want the things I do to be defined by who I am, not by my gender. I mean I am a woman, that is of course part of me, but I am also an individual. A capable, smart individual... and I am worried that I haven't done anything difficult enough or enough for the feminin cause...
Women in Quebec were only given the right to vote provincially in like 1940 and were only allowed to go into bars in like 1979... Until 1964 a woman could only get out of a marriage if her husband brought his concubine(mistress) into the home... he could do anything else including beating the shit out of her and that was fine by law... It all makes me want to puke! No one group of people have the right to control another group. There aren't even words for how upsetting it is to me that men thought it was their place to control and keep women in their place. Who started that shit? It's all done out of some cowardly fear... well fuck that! Yeah we can have the babies and men can hunt the animals... both are deserving of honour and respect. Neither should be subserviant to the other... ever. Down with patriarchy.. down with patriarchal religions and let's not forget that we refer to the Earth as our mother and the Sun as our father.
Anyways... there is still a long way to go in terms of equality... I hope that I am fighting and not selling out.
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